Being Doctor Mom

I enjoyed working as a doctor.  And I think I was pretty good – at least a lot of people said they missed me when I was gone.  When I was working, I tried very hard not to diagnose and treat my own kids.  This actually wasn’t too hard when they were little because they were hardly ever sick. 

But, there was the time that Rosie Girl had Salmonella that didn’t get diagnosed until it had been going on for 5 days and I took her to the ER on a Sunday night because she was dehydrated!  Wild Man, being so wild, had the bottom of his chin glued together once by the ER doctor and once by me (on a Friday afternoon).  He has been less sick, but more injury prone.  When he broke his collarbone, I had him see the Nurse-Practitioner with whom I shared an office and hallway (while I tried to finish seeing my last few patients and not hyperventilate!).

Things are more complicated now that I’m not part of a medical practice and have let my licensure lapse.  My biggest frustration is trying to sort out when to take them in to the clinic and when to just treat at home.  About 2 years ago, Rosie Girl had a sore throat that ended up becoming severe exudative tonsillitis by the time I finally took her to the clinic.  I’m so sure that most things are caused by viruses and so determined not to contribute to antibiotic resistance that I treat them at home as much as possible.  But, I’m still paying for that bit of “maternal malpractice” in not-so-funny jokes and remarks from Rosie Girl!

And we had to deal with the same issue again this week.  Wild Man has been sick until Tuesday.  It looked like just a virus until yesterday (Thanksgiving!) when it was clear he had tonsillitis and bacterial conjunctivitis.  Ugh!  Well, it was easy enough to diagnose without any special equipment and we had some leftover antibiotics (yeah, I know, you should throw away unused antibiotics) so I started him on Zithromax.  Wild Man is improved today, but still thinks I should have taken him to the doctor today and that I’m once again guilty of maternal malpractice!

What’s the lesson here?  I have no idea.  There is a balance between running to clinic for every sniffle (I’ve seen these families) and not taking them to see the doctor until they are very ill (and I’ve seen these families, too).  And I think we all end up on both sides of the line at various times.  I guess I’ll use the information and skills I have (which are more than moms who aren’t doctors) and take them to the clinic when they need something I don’t have (otoscope, XRay machine, prescribing ability!).

Nonetheless, we had a lovely Thanksgiving day – more about that later!  So, how do you handle sick kids?  Is one parent or the other “responsible” for dealing with the illness?  Are you able to call your doctor’s office for advice?

 

I Can’t Teach My High Schooler!!

PWM and I have generally been pretty confident about our ability to educate our kids at home.  Unfortunately, part of that confidence has been because we were unimpressed with the academic achievement of so many kids coming out of the public schools.  In any case, we always figured that if we could potty train toddlers, we could certainly teach them academic stuff.

But, then came high school.  Overall, PWM and I have remained confident of our ability to teach our kids, even with most high school topics.  After all, between the two of us, we have three bachelor’s degrees and a doctoral degree!  In this second year of Rosie Girl’s high school years, I think I’m learning as much as she is – and not just academics.

Lots of parents teach their kids at home until high school and then have them attend a public or private school.  Other families work to make sure that their kids can teach themselves during the high school years so that the student can learn things that the parent may not know.  I leaned toward the self-teaching concept.  But, I’m starting to re-think this position – or at least the idea that teens should be able to self-teach anything.

Rosie Girl is a visual learner and a great reader.  She learns things like History and Biology very well from textbooks.  We are finding, though, that she is having real trouble with Chemistry because she doesn’t need to learn a set of facts, but a set of skills.  No problem.  I’ve taken lots of Chemistry classes over the years, so I figured I’d just teach her.  Unfortunately, knowing Chemistry doesn’t translate into being able to TEACH Chemistry!  PWM, though, is a great teacher.  He can figure out where a student is struggling and explain that particular section until the student understands.  So, I worked all the end-of-chapter problems step by step and gave it to Rosie Girl.  When she still didn’t understand something, she and PWM would use the textbook and the worked out problems to work on it together.  And now she understands the sections that were giving her trouble.

From my vast experience of one high school student and one middle school student (along with lots of reading), I have learned some lessons for parents who are going to homeschool their teens.

1. Don’t expect to have to teach your teen everything, but also don’t expect them to be able to learn everything on their own.

2. Help your student learn how to learn.  Rosie Girl did a study skills workbook last year which has helped her figure out the ways that she learns best.  Since she’s a visual learner, reading tends to be her best bet.  Wild Man is very much an auditory learner, so he may do better with online or DVD lectures instead of/in addition to textbooks for subjects like History.  Remember that there are tons of resources available online or at the library.  Rosie Girl has used Khan Academy on YouTube to get a different perspective on some Chemistry topics.

3. When your teen is learning something that you (the parent) don’t know, help them find ways to learn it.  Rosie Girl wants to learn Japanese, but I have not the first clue about it!  Another parent clued me in to the BYU online courses.  Rosie Girl is getting her 2 credits of foreign language with my involvement being to just check in to make sure she’s keeping up.

4. When it comes to learning skills, your teen may need some one-on-one help.  This can be particularly true in Math and sciences like Chemistry and Physics.  In our case, we’re quite fortunate that PWM is an excellent teacher of things related to Math.  Other families may find that signing a student up for a course at the local high school or community college or even an online course with real-time interaction is the answer.  Rosie Girl is learning quite a bit at her Art class at the local high school that she would never have gotten to learn from a book (or from her parents!).

No, I can’t really teach my high schooler, but that doesn’t mean that she can’t learn successfully at home.  We just have to figure out what works for her.  And she’ll be that much ahead when she gets to college.

 

7 Quick Takes Friday – 11/19/2010

1. I capitulated to the children about the location of the Christmas tree.  But, as part of the deal, they have to clean the living room and move the furniture.

2. Deer (gun) season starts tomorrow.  Normally, this means nothing to me, but a good friend is taking Wild Man out on Monday.  I’d love to have some fresh venison!

3. Mint M&Ms are available !!  One of the myriad reasons to love this time of year!

4. I think Wild Man has grown 4-6 inches since last year.  We’re going to have to get him some new dress clothes and shoes for his band concert and church services.  Deep sigh.

5. I painted my nails dark blue and then added some sparkly polish on top.  It’s not really a great look for a 43 year old woman, but it makes me happy anyway!

6. Grandma took the kids to the midnight showing of “Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows – Part 1” last night/early this morning.  PWM and I are going to see it at a more rational time of day.  But, the kids loved it and I can’t wait to see it!

7. In the meantime, we got “Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince” from Netflix, so PWM and I enjoyed that for our little “date night” last night!

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Mutiny In The Bungalow?

So last night, I told my kids that I thought we should put the Christmas tree in the dining room this year.  Our living room and dining room are almost one room, but the dining room area has vinyl flooring and the living room has wood.  Right now, our living room seems a little crowded to add a Christmas tree, so I figured that we could put it in the dining room with less inconvenience.

You would have thought that I told the kids I wanted to cut off one of their arms!  They proceeded to mutiny – at 10pm.  I told them that mutiny could only be considered between noon and 5pm, so they had to wait until today.  But, I woke up with a migraine, so I told them no mutiny when I have a migraine.

So they’ve changed tactics.  They are now engaging in non-violent resistance (a la Gandhi) as evidenced by these signs placed throughout the house.

(Note: the 143 means “I love you” while the “pr” means “passive resistance”.)

Well, if they feel so strongly about having the Christmas tree in the living room, I think they can be the ones to move the furniture, clean up, and vacuum before we bring the tree upstairs.  And I can call their protest educational since we’ll be learning about Gandhi later in the year.  Now, as long as they don’t decide to protest their schoolwork . . .

 

Our Week In Review – The Super-Late Edition

So, how’s your week been?  Ours has been it’s usual craziness.  When I quit working, I thought for some reason, that my days would be boring and all the same.  Hah!  Life is never dull around here!  So, what did we do?

Wild Man

Wild Man is really doing quite well with reading and spelling.  Is it an effect of the Vision Therapy already, or are we just lucky?  Don’t know, don’t care.  I’m happy with it.  I did have Wild Man do a few pages in his new Easy Grammar book.  He thought they were painfully easy.  Fine.  Next week, we move on to subjects and verbs.

We’ve been studying China this week.  I had a number of significant headaches, so I didn’t read a whole lot to him.  We did, however, watch several Netflix shows about China and Tibet.  Several of the shows were Wild China, which I decided is also Science, so I don’t feel bad about how lonely the Science book is getting.  Wild Man’s paper this week was about his book on Hudson Taylor.

Wednesdays, Wild Man still does the Nutrition Site without me and is enjoying himself.  He’s also been busy on Sunday mornings helping do kids’ church.  They do a skit almost every week and Wild Man has played various Old Testament characters in the last few months.  After church on Sunday, Wild Man practices with the youth band and then has a separate drum lesson with the youth pastor (who is a drummer) on Thursday afternoon.  He’s getting the hang of using a drum kit – good for him!

Rosie Girl

Chemistry is still problematic, but I think the total volume of tears shed this week was definitely less than previously.  I’ve done the problems from the book into a notebook that she can use as a study guide, and PWM and I have both helped her with various concepts.  We will get through this!

Rosie Girl wrote a rough draft this week of a paper about the Papal Schism.  Medieval church history isn’t really her “thing”, but she’s managing.

Otherwise, Rosie Girl is being her usual creative self: playing piano, making Christmas presents, and writing.

Some choice nuggets from her journal:

• A good friend will tell you their dad’s about to kill you.  A best friend will run away with you.  (About David and Jonathan)
• And, so, as a result of peer pressure, Israel asked for a king.  Now who do they pick?  Saul the idiot, of course.
• I guess three popes are better than one.  NOT!!!  (About the papal schism)
• And now we have Samson.  Most pathetic man in the Bible.  (Rosie Girl is a woman of strong opinions!)

And, me?  Well, considering that I’m writing a weekly wrap-up at 1:30 on Monday morning, I think it’s safe to conclude that I really don’t have things under control.  And I just realized a few minutes ago that Rosie Girl is on Week 13 of Sonlight while Wild Man is on Week 12.  Apparently, Rosie Girl skipped Week 10 because I took it out of the binder too early.  ACK!  I may have her go back and do the reading from Week 10 that she missed and start Week 13 after Thanksgiving.

I really need a holiday – and I’m very thankful that we have a week off starting next Monday.  As it is, Grandma is taking the kids to the midnight showing of the new Harry Potter film on Thursday night/Friday morning, so I doubt I’ll get much work out of them on Friday.  Whatever.  We’re all looking forward to Thanksgiving!

So, what’s up at your house?

Hope

I’m not having a good night.  I’m sitting in my rocking chair with an ice pack on my head, having maxed out on all my meds.  Unlike many of my migraines, I actually have an idea of the cluster of things that triggered this one.  First of all, I’m in a headache-prone time in my cycle.  Second, this is happening in Western Sahara right now.  (It’s too long to explain, but our church has been involved along with a church in a larger city in outreach and humanitarian work with the Saharawi people who live in refugee camps in Algeria.  The violence is heart-wrenching.)  Third, I had my CT scan of the neck today and it was normal.

Why would having a normal neck CT be a headache trigger?  Good question.  My doctor and I agreed that my symptoms are not at all typical of disc problems in my neck.  Nonetheless, since my migraines have been so resistant to treatment, we decided that we should  at least take a look at my neck and verify that I don’t have any herniating discs causing my headache issues.  The scan itself was short and sweet – well, the position I was in was starting to worsen my usual headache a little bit, but since the scan takes so little time, it wasn’t a big deal.  I got my results by computer a couple of hours after I got home.  And I can’t say I was surprised that it was normal.

But I’m almost disappointed.  I think that, deep down, I was starting to have hope that we might find something treatable.  Not that I was all that thrilled with the idea of someone carving on my neck.  Yet, if there was a decent chance it would help with the headaches, I would have done it.

Another great idea goes by the wayside.

As I ponder this situation, though, I am reminded that my hope for a joyful and contented life is not found in headache relief.  Yes, I really, really want the headaches to go away.  But, I can have a good life despite them.

No, my hope is in Jesus who gives me abundant life through my headaches. Romans 5:3-5 says “Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.  And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.”  Pretty much the whole book of Philippians is Paul reminding the church of God’s sovereignty and the joy we have in Jesus.

I know that God is using my pain somehow for His glory, even if I can’t see how.  And so, by His grace (for I can do nothing by myself), I keep moving forward.  The headaches might go away or they might not.  But, God is the same yesterday, today, and forever.  He is the Solid Rock on which I can build my life.  And He is himself eternal and provides me with the hope of eternal life.

I’ll get up tomorrow and keep moving forward, obeying Jesus, and living life with the joy that He gives – even if I have a headache.

Rambling

Be prepared: this post is going to just be a ramble of stuff that I’ve thought of in the last several hours.  You’ve been warned.

So, I went to church this morning – Yippee!  It helped that I got an extra hour of sleep.  This morning was the Sunday this month for Communion.  Honestly, I’ve tended to approach it as just one of the “things we do” in church.  Whether or not I was there for Communion never really made much difference in my life.  That’s changing, though.  The more that I experience God’s grace, the more “reality” there is in Communion.  No, I’m not going Catholic with transubstantiation or anything; the act of remembrance during Communion is more meaningful now than it has been in the past.

Our pastor preached on “What Happens After We Die?” today.  Can I just say that our pastor is an amazing preacher?!  We are so fortunate to have someone who really researches his topics and then is able to explain them quite well.

But, of course, I have an issue.  Why?  Why can’t I just listen and keep my “mouth” shut?  I don’t know.  (I feel like Pippin in “The Return of the King” when Merry says - “Why do you have to look, Pippin?  Why do you always have to look?”)  Our pastor (very correctly, I believe) said that not only does the Bible tell us to not go to spiritists or mediums, but that they are just fraudulent.  Our souls don’t hang out here on Earth to talk to living humans after we die. 

But . . .  what about when Saul consults a medium and the spirit of Samuel talks to him?  (I Samuel 28:3-24)  In this case, Saul disguises himself and consults a medium, which he knows is forbidden by God.  Apparently, though, Samuel himself does appear to Saul and pretty much tells Saul that his armies will be defeated because Saul has disobeyed God (in more ways than just consulting a medium).  Was this a real visitation?  Was it a one-time deal that God allowed?  Was the medium herself being used by God and Samuel didn’t really appear?  I have no idea.  But, clearly, Saul was sinning simply by consulting the medium.

My favorite quote from today’s sermon is “The believer is as close to Hell as he will ever get while  he’s on earth; the unbeliever is as close to Heaven as he will ever get while he’s on earth.”  Very true.

During the sermon, I was reminded of Dante’s Inferno, Purgatorio, and Paradiso.  I’ve read The Inferno and part of The Paradiso.  What came to my mind, though, is that Hell is immeasurably worse than Dante imagines (and Dante has quite the imagination) and Heaven is immeasurably better than Dante imagines.

The author whom I think does the best job of getting the “sense” of Heaven right is C.S. Lewis.  (You aren’t surprised, are you?)  The very end of The Last Battle in which Aslan encourages the characters to go “further up and further in” and the garden that is larger on the inside than on the outside are powerful descriptions.  I also like his description in The Great Divorce of the area actually right around Heaven.  (The premise of the book is that souls in Hell, which is just dull and gray, can get on a train to visit the outside of Heaven.  I don’t think Lewis imagined this as reality, but as an analogy.  The real point is that the souls of people who aren’t interested in or can’t handle the wonders of true love in Heaven are already living in Hell.)  To Lewis, being near or in Heaven is like reality being more “real”.  The grass is hard, like glass and the sun is brighter than normal, but the souls in Heaven don’t feel anything different because their bodies are also more “real”, yet a soul visiting from the train finds this “real reality” painful.  Confusing?  Yeah.  Read the book.  Lewis is a master of description.

I hope you enjoyed your worship time today!

Our Week In Review – 11/6/2010

 

 

Just two more weeks till Thanksgiving break!!  Yes, this teacher/mom is ready for a break.  This was a tough week for me because of my migraine Monday through Wednesday.  But, we also had some educational “challenges”!

Wild Man

Wild Man and PWM are having a great time at Tae Kwon Do.  Their first belt test is in the first part of December.  I’ve been quite impressed with Wild Man’s diligence in practicing his forms, but even more impressed with his efforts to memorize the manners, and other pieces of information (‘cause memorization is NOT his strong suit!).

Vision Therapy is going quite well for Wild Man.  The therapist is impressed with the amount of progress he is making.  It is a bit early to see a change in his academics, but we’re optimistic.

In his study of Eastern Hemisphere countries, Wild Man has made it to China.  Because of my migraines, we watched several episodes of Wild China, but we’re also reading the China book in the Enchantment of the World series of books.

Wild Man is doing quite well with learning grammar.  I had him start working in his Easy Grammar workbook this week and he did just fine.  He’s also reading about Hudson Taylor this week.  I’m debating about watching “Chariots of Fire”.  It’s a good movie, but I’m not sure it will hold his interest.  However, when we did Core 5 several years ago, he loved watching “Gandhi”, so I guess I’ll try it and see.

Rosie Girl

This week’s paper by Rosie Girl was a “rant” about the fact that the author of The Trumpeter Of Krakow did not include sheet music of the trumpeter’s song.  She read Pilgrim’s Progress this last week, but didn’t enjoy it as much as some of her other books.  She is studying the time of the Western Schism when there were two competing papacies – one in Rome and the other in Avignon.

Rosie Girl is working on her music for the Christmas tea where she will play.  She is also playing keyboards at church for Christmas, for which she is really excited since they are playing Christmas Eve/Sarajevo (by Trans-Siberian Orchestra).

The real “challenge” this week was Chemistry – again.  I love that Singapore Chemistry teaches kids to really think instead of just learn formulas, but Rosie Girl has been getting very easily frustrated.  This is probably the first course that she’s had real trouble with.  I ordered the Teacher’s edition of the workbook, which should help some.  The most helpful thing that I’m doing is to make a solutions manual for the questions in the book.  This way, when Rosie Girl and I work on them together, I’ve already done it and know how to approach it.  But, there was some wailing and gnashing of teeth this week.  I’m still having trouble believing that one of my children hates science so much!

That was our week!  How was yours?  Anything exciting happen?  Check out Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers to see how others have done!

7 Quick Takes Friday

 

Ahhh, Friday!  Truly one of the most stressful days of the week around here as we try to get all the “schoolwork” done so we can have the weekend free!

1. I had a migraine from Monday through Wednesday.  On Tuesday, I was supposed to go see my doctor for a regular visit.  I was already feeling poorly and had taken some potent medications, so my mother-in-law drove me to the appointment.  By the time I saw the doctor, my headache was well into the 9-10 (out of 10) range.  So, for the first time in close to two years, I ended up with shots of Toradol and morphine.  Within 30 minutes, I had significant relief!  Special thanks to my mother-in-law for driving me so I could get the “good” meds!  Yeah, the headache continued into Wednesday, but I’m so grateful that I got a few hours of relief on Tuesday.

2. One other thing that we decided on at my doctor’s visit is to do a CT scan of my neck next week.  My headaches don’t at all fit the description of cervicogenic or discogenic pain, but we all know of some person whose symptoms didn’t fit the final diagnosis.

3. Wild Man goes over to Grandma’s just about every day.  I called him back yesterday to do some schoolwork and he brought his mug of hot chocolate with him.  He had helped Grandma do some work on the shed and then chased off some squirrels for her.  After that, he stayed for “tea”!

4. Rosie Girl is hard into NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month).  I’m betting she’s going to be happy that we have a full week off school on Thanksgiving week!

5. It’s becoming winter!  Our heater is set at 65-68 degrees and we’re having to wear warm clothes again.

6. The downside of becoming winter is that we still need to get the back yard ready – take the trampoline pad down, mulch the plants, and figure out what do with our Topsy Turvy’s.

7. I’m starting to enjoy a little Christmas music.  Rosie Girl is playing a concert for a Women’s Tea in December and is playing on the church worship team for Christmas Eve, so we’ve already got some Christmas music around the house.  But, right after Thanksgiving, you can bet it’s going to be all Christmas music, all the time!!

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Our Week In Review – 10/30/2010

Tomorrow’s Halloween!!  This is the first year that neither of my kids is going trick-or-treating, so I’m feeling a little bit old.  Nonetheless, it’s always fun to give out candy to all the neighborhood kids.  I bought tons of candy – hopefully, we won’t run out this year!

Wild Man

Wild Man learned about Korea this week.  We read a couple of books and watched an excellent National Geographic special about North Korea.  He wrote (dictated) a really nice paper about his reader, The Kite Fighters.

I’m pleased that Wild Man’s spelling seems to be improving even though we’re still reviewing.  We also practiced using and recognizing prepositions and prepositional phrases.

Wild Man is also learning to play drum kit in a teen worship band at church.  All of the other kids are beginners on their instruments, so Wild Man actually is in a good place.  He’s also loving being part of the Junior High group on Thursday nights.

This week Wild Man went to the Nutrition Site without me.  He said that he only did a few things, but he was helpful and he had a good time.

Rosie Girl

Chemistry is turning out to be Rosie Girl’s Achilles Heel.  She doesn’t enjoy it and it requires more effort than usual for her to understand it.  Thursday night was a particularly rough night for the two of us.  But, we got through it and I have a few ideas for using online sites to help her get other perspectives on the topic.

I’m very proud of Rosie Girl’s writing.  She got a perfect score on her Write At Home essay this week.  She has also been preparing to play piano for a ladies’ Christmas tea at a local church.  She’s putting together her piano music and getting a piece ready on ocarina.

Rosie Girl helps our worship director at church on Wednesdays.  Last week and this week, her job was to put together the packets of music for the team for the next week.  She’s being useful as well as enjoying her time there.

And there’s more evidence of Rosie Girl’s growing up!  She’s going to take Driver’s Ed in January, and we’re hoping to do a college visit in early December.  Yikes!  Where did the time go?

How was your week?  Check out Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers for more weekly reviews!

James 2:1-7

 

My brothers, as believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ, don’t show favoritism.  Suppose a man comes into your meeting wearing a gold ring and fine clothes, and a poor man in shabby clothes also comes in.  If you show special attention to the man wearing fine clothes and say, “Here’s a good seat for you,” but say to the poor man, “You stand there” or “Sit on the floor by my feet,” have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts?

Listen, my dear brothers: Has not God chosen those who are poor in the eyes of the world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom he promised those who love him?  Gut you have insulted the poor.  It is not the rich who are exploiting you?  Are they not the ones who are dragging you into court?  Are they not the ones who are slandering the noble name of him to whom you belong?

James 2:1-7

When I read this passage, I immediately think of the local church and body of believers of which I am a part.  The good news is that I don’t see much in the way of discrimination against others based on their social class.  Yet, we still need to take this passage seriously so that we don’t become like the Pharisee who prayed, “Thank you, Lord, that I am not like this sinner.”  As soon as we look down on anyone for any reason, we have sinned by showing favoritism.

We may feel proud of ourselves that our churches don’t openly discriminate against those of other social classes, but this verse can be extended into many other areas.  Are our churches open to those of other races and other cultures?  Do we prefer to welcome those who look most like us – perhaps even discriminating the other way against those who have more money and are of an upper class? 

In our area, racial discrimination seems less of an issue because most people are Caucasian.  Nonetheless, there is a significant Hispanic population that doesn’t seem well-represented in our church.  Are we too lax in our outreach to this population?  Yet, I know that our missions team sees this population as one that we could reach better.  What about your church?  Does everyone seem to look like you?  Is this OK?  How can the body of Christ truly reach these other populations that don’t show up on our doorsteps?

James is trying to get us to see here that we are all one in Christ – a sentiment echoed throughout Paul’s letters (Galatians 3: 28 – “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”).  I think in our current church culture, we may transgress this commandment by gravitating toward those who seem to have a particular gift that can be used in a worship setting – e.g. musical ability, speaking or teaching ability, etc.  Yet, we are all one in Christ, and we all have gifts that are necessary to the Body of Christ.  We can’t afford to play favorites.  Someone who plays an instrument is no more necessary to the proper function of the Body of Christ than someone who sits with the grieving family or someone who makes it their job to pray regularly for those in need.

As an individual, I can make it my business to expand my circle of acquaintances into those who are different from me.  I can also make sure that I am using my spiritual gifts in the way God wants me to.  As a church, each church body needs to regularly make sure that they (we) are open to using everyone and their gifts and that no group of people gets special treatment.  This may also mean expanding outreach to make sure that every segment of the local population has the opportunity to hear the Gospel, not just the ones who come to church on Sunday.

Lord, help us to love everyone, no matter their color, social status, bathing status, hair color, etc. and give us the courage and words to share the Gospel with all – not condescendingly, but lovingly as people whom God has saved.

Thoughts?  What more can we, as individuals, do to avoid showing favoritism?

7 Quick Takes Friday – 10/20/2001

 

 

1. I’m in the middle of Christmas knitting!!  Since my friends and family read my blog, I won’t go in to any details, but I’m having a great time learning new techniques and making fun things!

2. It’s getting chilly around here!  The high today was about 50 degrees, so we’re breaking out sweaters.  I haven’t checked yet to see if the kids’ coats fit.  Sigh.  They keep growing!

3. Wild Man (to Rosie Girl): “May the cucumber be with you!  (yelling) And don’t go to the tomato side!!”  I think he’s had a little too much Star Wars and Veggie Tales.

4. Wild Man is learning to play drum kit as well as other percussion instruments in our church’s teen worship group, which is more like a workshop since all the kids are learning their instruments.  He enjoys it and he’s learning a lot!

5. Rosie Girl won “The Grind’s Got Talent” – the youth group talent show – with her ocarina solo.  I’m so proud of her!

6. It will be a miracle if Rosie Girl and I survive Chemistry this year.  I remember a good bit of Chemistry, so I’m the one teaching her.  But, she has very little interest in learning it.  It could be a long year!

7. I bought a TON (well, almost) of candy for trick or treaters this year.  We have run out every year that we’ve been in this house, so I hope I bought too much instead of too little this year.  We can always save the extras, but I HATE to run out of candy for the poor kids whose parents can’t take them out till later than the other kids.

That’s it for our week.  Check out Conversion Diary for more 7 Quick Takes Friday!

ACK! They’re Not Little Anymore!

I don’t think I can handle this.  It seems like just yesterday that they were elementary school age.  But not now.  They’re growing up entirely too quickly!!

Rosie Girl was asked this Monday to play piano for a women’s Christmas tea at a local church in December.  The woman who called left a message on Rosie Girl’s cell phone.  Rosie Girl had to call her back to tell her that she could do the performance, but she was very nervous about making the call.  I’m so proud that she did it and accepted the offer to perform and is now working on setting up the music for it.

Last Friday, the high school writers’ club met.  They want to get sweatshirts with their name and logo on them, so Rosie Girl offered to do the legwork.  Yesterday, she walked to the shop after art class and got a quote from them.  When she got home, she realized that she was unclear on the cost of each shirt, so she had to call the shop back to clarify things.  Again, this was a hard thing for her, but she did it!

Last week, I told the Nutrition Site coordinator that I wouldn’t be trying to come every week, but just on the monthly birthday party day.  However, Wild Man still wanted to go.  This morning, I slept in late because of last night’s migraine, so PWM drove Wild Man to the site and I picked him up almost two hours later.  Wild Man said that there wasn’t a ton of stuff for him to do, but he had a good time.  Most jobs that he does up there are with one of the senior citizens, so I’m glad to see that he’s enjoying his time with them.

One of the things that I read in The Endless Adolescence is that teens need to be part of “real” adult life and not trapped in the “teenage bubble”.  I’m so glad that my kids are willingly embracing these growing steps – even if it makes me nervous!

 

Our Week In Review – 10/24/2010

What a week!   As my counselor told me, I was going through “re-entry” into the family system.  Yeah.  Whatever.  I tried to catch up between migraines, but still have a suitcase in my bedroom that needs to be emptied.  Sigh.  I’m writing this while I prepare next week’s schedule, so it’s later than usual.

Wild Man

We spent this week learning more about Japan.  We finished reading Commodore Perry In The Land Of The Shogun and watched some Netflix movies about Samurai.  We also talked about some more serious issues when he watched a Netflix show about Hiroshima and read Sadako and the 1000 Cranes.

Wild Man and I went to the Nutrition Site for the monthly birthday party on Wednesday.  We both enjoyed working in the kitchen and he loves to play Bingo after lunch.

Band has been going quite well for Wild Man.  Not only is he playing percussion in Band, but he has joined a youth band at church where the kids are all young and are just learning their instruments.

A couple of weeks ago, I broke my hand mixer.  Instead of throwing it away, I asked PWM to cut the plug off.  On Monday, Wild Man took the mixer apart and looked at how the motor worked.  He also unwound all the copper wire and rewound it for Rosie Girl (although he did charge her $1 for the labor involved – maybe we’ll say he’s learning business, too!).  Oh, and he’s wearing the eye patch because one part of his vision therapy is to do some fine motor activity with one eye patched.

Rosie Girl

Rosie Girl wrote a very nice paper on the development of the Church in Southeast Asia in the early years after Jesus.  She also turned in a final draft of an essay to Write At Home.  I’m pleased with the feedback that she’s getting from her writing coach.

On Friday, Rosie Girl went to Writing Club after school.  She loves hanging out with other writing friends.  They are all going to participate in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) starting November 1.  This time, I’m not even going to try to do it!

Rosie Girl was a little unhappy with her Chemistry this week because I made it a review week.  I’m glad I did because she seems to have a much better understanding of bonding.

I couldn’t find an online Japanese course for Rosie Girl when we started the year, so she has been using the free program from the library.  I think she’s learning, but it’s hard for me to evaluate.  At a wedding this past June, a friend told me that her son used the online BYU Japanese class.  Rosie Girl and I checked it out and I’m going to sign her up this week!

This next week Wild Man will be learning about Korea.  We’re also going to spend a little more effort on Language Arts.

 

James 1:12

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.”  James 1:12

“James says that if the Christian meets the testings of life in the steadfast constancy which Christ can give, life becomes infinitely more splendid than it ever was before.  The struggle is a way to glory and the very struggle itself is a glory.”  William Barclay

I have been reminded in the last few days that the path of sanctification or becoming more like Jesus, while it is a process that requires God’s activity, also requires significant effort on our part.

James 1:1-3

I’m now in a women’s Bible Study that is going through the book of James.  I totally love the book of James!!  Believe it or not, though, Martin Luther thought that James should not have been in the canon of the Bible.  Apparently, he thought that it’s emphasis on works diluted the idea of salvation by grace through faith.

The book of James, though, has a specific role to play in the New Testament (from what I can tell).  It is a book written to Christians (probably Jewish Christians) to encourage them to pursue holy living.  The writer assumes that his audience knows about Jesus’ sacrifice that pays for our sin.  Now, he wants to help us pursue sanctification (being made holy).

James 1:1-3 (NIV)

James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To  the twelve tribes scattered among the nations:  Greetings.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith developed perseverance.  Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

According to my trusty Barclay Commentary (thanks, Dad!!), the Greek word used for testing implies that the testing is directed towards an end.  Our testing is to make us stronger in our faith.  Then the Greek word for “perseverance” is sometimes translated “patience”, but it really is a more active word than that.  We are given what we need to not only bear the trial, but to turn it to glory of God.

James is making it very clear here that our trials are not unknown to God.  Everything that happens to us is of use in making us more like Jesus, if we face these trials.  Yet, I can do nothing in my own strength.  So, I’m constantly relying on the Holy Spirit to get me through each minute of each day.  It’s kind of crazy that bearing up under trials is more than just endurance – it brings glory to God.

Martin Luther may not have been real happy with the book of James.  In fact, I would get rather disheartened by reading all that James tells us to do.  However, on further study, I find that James’ emphasis on works is not misplaced.  When we come to read James as believers who know that God is always at work in us and that our service to Him is only because of the strength He gives us, the book is an encouragement to rely on God to make us holy.

I want to live a holy and perfect life, but I can only do so in the strength given me by God.  Yet, I make choices every day – essentially, they are choices whether or not to allow the Holy Spirit take control of that set of actions.  So, God and I work in cooperation for my sanctification.  And my becoming more holy then spurs me on to even more good works and, hopefully, makes me more sensitive to the needs around me.  It’s a win-win.

Just my thoughts on trials, God, and sanctification.  I’m sure I’ll write more as we get further into the study.

Our Week In Review – 10/16/2010

 

 

Since I didn’t do a weekly report last week, I’m going to try to summarize two weeks tonight.  ‘Cause there’s no way I’ll get three weeks worth done next weekend!

As noted in yesterday’s post, I spent Tuesday through Thursday of this week attending my aunt’s funeral in Dallas.  Because of that, I was busy all day Monday with packing.  When I got home Thursday afternoon, I realized that I had packed my CPAP machine without emptying the reservoir (that allows me to breathe humidified air).  When I finally dared to turn the machine on Thursday night, it was not working properly.  I did manage to sleep after about 3am.  On Friday, we had to drive into Appleton to get a rental CPAP machine.  I took a very long nap Friday, slept well last night, and had a short nap today.  I think I’m close to being caught up.

Here’s what’s up with the kids:

Wild Man

Bible and Math – still doing well with PWM.

History/Geography – He didn’t do the New Zealand map that I had wanted last week, but we moved on to Japan this week.  Theoretically.  Actually, we’re reading The Master Puppeteer and he’s watched some Netflix shows about samurai.  He didn’t have any of the read-aloud work done this week, so I tried to read some to him this afternoon, but he fell asleep.  We’ll try again tomorrow.

Vision Therapy – Wild Man didn’t have an appointment this week, but he has been doing his exercises regularly.  He made spaghetti for dinner last night with a patch over one eye.

Reading – He finished Born In The Year Of Courage as well as The Big Wave.  He’s motivated to read his “school” books because he has been reading The Guardians Of Ga’Hoole series of books in his free time.

Community Service – I’ve been having a really hard time getting to the Nutrition Site the past few weeks.  I think I’m going to just go on the weeks when they’re having the birthday party.  Wild Man says he still wants to go help out even if I can’t make it.

Science – Wild Man and PWM did some science reading last week.  Otherwise, we’re behind where I’d like to be in the reading.

Rosie Girl

Bible – She’s still in the Old Testament, but sticking with it.

History – Her main book this last week was The Church In The East.  I thought it would be about the Eastern Orthodox, Syrian, and Coptic churches, but it’s actually about the early spread of Christianity to the Far East (India and China).

Rosie Girl wrote a very nice paper about The Flames Of Rome.  I asked a friend of mine who teaches writing at a college to take a look at it and she felt like it’s about the level she sees in entering freshman.  That’s quite encouraging.

Writing – I’m quite pleased at how she is doing with WriteAtHome.  Her writing coach is giving her good feedback and she seems to have a better sense of the five-paragraph essay now.

Math – PWM gave her a few days off this week, but she’s been doing quite well.

Chemistry – Rosie Girl isn’t a fan of Chemistry, but this week was really tough for her.  She asked me to help her today with her workbook exercises.  It’s pretty clear that she doesn’t really have a good handle on this chapter and possibly some of the previous material.  We’re going to do a review week next week where I’ll have her watch some Khan Academy videos and then answer questions in the Singapore textbook (as opposed to the workbook).  She may not be planning to be a science major, but she definitely needs a basic understanding of this material.

Art and Music – Coming along swimmingly!

Extra-curriculars – She played her ocarina for the youth group talent show a few weeks ago and did quite well.

The last two weeks have been kind of a blur, so I hope that things are calmer this next week.  I don’t have anything special planned, but I will be spending more time with Rosie Girl on Chemistry and trying to catch Wild Man up on his reading. 

Check out Weird, Unsocialized, Homeschoolers to see how others have done this week!

7 Quick Takes Friday – 10/15/2010

 

This week’s post can be subtitled “The Extended Family Edition” or “How I Took Almost 200 Pictures In 48 Hours”.

1. My mom’s sister (one of 8 originally, but one of 4 at her death) died this last weekend at the age of 79.  It wasn’t unexpected, but it was still quite sad.

2. I didn’t know my aunt very well (Mom was the youngest of 12, so I only knew/know a couple or her siblings really well), but I went to Dallas to be with Mom for the funeral.  So, I was on a plane from The Great White North on Tuesday morning and arrived in Dallas around 2pm.  I left Dallas Thursday morning and got home around 2pm.  And, yes, I’m tired – emotionally and physically!

3. My aunt is buried in the second-largest private cemetery in the US.  Wow.  It was just huge!

4. My aunt had been in the military when she was in her 20’s (I believe), so she was buried in the military section of the cemetery (from what I could tell).  It’s actually kind of cool that she was in the service at a time when that was not a common option for young women.

5. During my time in Dallas, I got to meet all 7 of my aunt’s children, which I don’t think I had done before.  I also met several of her grandchildren, one of her sisters-in-law, and lots of members of her church.

6. One of my cousins rented a car and she had brought her TomTom (GPS system) with her to help us navigate the city.  Our hotel, the church, and the cemetery were all very close together, but it was still a challenge.  On Tuesday, I sat in the passenger’s seat, so I was the navigator – which should have been no big deal since I navigate for PWM all the time.  However, I think the driver lost her trust in me after I had her drive the wrong way on a one-way street!  Thankfully, God was looking out for us and we didn’t get killed.  (I think I acquitted myself in the navigation department later that day and the next.)

7. One very interesting thing about this week was learning how many of my cousins actually live rather close to me (within a day’s drive).  Most of my family is in the South, but my aunt had married and lived in the Twin Cities afterward.  I have several cousins living in the Wisconsin/Minnesota area – pretty cool!

Check out 7 Quick Takes Friday to see what others have been up to! 

 

7 Quick Takes Friday

 

1. I had a great time at the Women’s Retreat at Fort Wilderness last weekend.  I hope to post pictures soon.

2. As Rosie Girl, PWM, and I were leaving church on Wednesday night (I’m going to a Wednesday night Bible study now), a young man told Rosie Girl good-bye.  She was a little ways ahead of us, but still heard me say to PWM, “That boy spoke to our girl.”  He answered, “Yeah.”  My response: “Why is he still alive?”  Rosie Girl: “Mom, that’s supposed to be Dad’s job!”  Me: “We have a united front!”

3. Wild Man and PWM started Tae Kwon Do this week.  PWM did it in high school and was a green belt, but it’s brand new for Wild Man.  So far, so good!

4. Wild Man has eye exercises to do every day.  It’s actually pretty interesting to see what they have him do – following lists of letters up or down with just one eye, eye-hand coordination activities with one eye patched, etc.  It’s early to see progress yet, but he’s diligent about doing them.

5. It’s Homecoming Week in our little town!  PWM and I took a stroll to the library this afternoon and ended up being on the business block of Main Street right before the parade came, so we stayed and watched.  Fun!  Rosie Girl stayed at school after her class today (which was short since it was a half-day) and went to the pep rally.  She joined us for the parade and then went to the first half of the game.  She wasn’t optimistic about her team’s chances, but she said she had fun.

6. It’s October, so I’m knitting up all the Christmas presents!!  Obviously, I’m not going to put on a public blog that my family reads what all I’m going to do, but suffice it to say that they’re going to like them!

7. On Wednesday night, the Grind (the youth group) did a talent show, so Rosie Girl played Amazing Grace on her ocarina.  With an accompaniment that she had found that afternoon online and burned to CD.  With a key change.  So she learned the whole thing in just an hour or two.  Wow.  (And the other kids in the group were impressed, too.)

So, check out 7 Quick Takes Friday to see what others are up to!

The “Joys” Of Womanhood

One day when I was in medical school, my mom called me and started to ream me out as a representative of the medical profession about how terrible mammograms were.  It would be almost 20 years before I could truly understand her angst.  And now, every year, I get to wish I could find an errant radiologist to yell at about mammograms.  Not that he/she invented the screening exam.  I just feel like I need to fuss about the “joy” of being a woman.

I had my mammogram done yesterday at the clinic where I used to work.  They do a great job of customer service as well as medical excellence.  The tech (with whom I used to work) gave me a nice warm gown to put on.  The exam was short and as painless as possible (I’m sure).  And the report came back today – normal.

Yes, I’m complaining.  But, I will continue to get my mammograms every year.  Two of my friends were diagnosed with breast cancer this year.  Breast cancer isn’t really preventable (although you can decrease your risk factors), but it is clear that early detection improves the outcome of women with breast cancer.  So, I’ll get my annual mammograms.

And pray regularly that MRIs (or some equally painless procedure) can be used for screening very soon.  ‘Cause my “girls” aren’t thrilled about doing this every year.

So, go get your mammogram.  Now!